Invisible Bisexual Boogeymen: How Chasing Amy is Still Ahead of Its Time

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Bisexuals! In a nation that’s still struggling to wrap its societal head around the concept that maybe not everybody’s cisgender and straight and that also those people are real human beings, nothing is scarier than someone not fitting within the shakily established new binary (from “normal” and “freak” to “totes straight” and “the gayest”). As my extremely nervous and closeted high school self felt safe joking, bisexuals do the great service of giving homo and heterosexuals someone to bond over hating (and let us not get into pansexuals or the ace spectrum, individuals so invisible the illuminati take lessons from them).

Whether you view it as a phase, a way of continuing to “pass” in straight society, a sexy fanservice opportunity that can still be hooked up with a heterosexual love interest in the end, a lascivious villain out to draw every wide eyed or stalwart innocent into their life of depravity, or just referring to them as solely gay or straight depending on their partner at the time, there are a whole host of exciting ways to ignore and trivialize non-monosexual people.

That rather weary opener brings us to 1997’s Chasing Amy, Kevin Smith’s finest film and still one of the all-time indie greats. No doubt those familiar with the canon of queer film are raising some significant eyebrows at me right now, because advertising at time of release pretty well pigeonholed this flick as “that one movie where Ben Affleck turns a lesbian.” Not so, my friends! In fact, it’s one of the most sensitive exploration of the grey areas of romantic and sexual desire I can think of.

A quick summary: Holden works with his friend Banky working on a popular comic called Bluntman and Chronic. At a convention he meets Alyssa Jones, a much smaller indie comic and lesbian, and befriends her before ultimately falling her. The two eventually begin a relationship; but while Alyssa is prepared to face being shunned by her community for her new partner, Holden finds himself gripped with a mounting jealousy when he learns that he isn’t Alyssa’s first male partner.

Before we start, I do want to mention that I can think of many reasons why a queer person might not want to engage with this film: the stereotype that lesbians “just need the right man” has been a pervasive and dangerous one throughout American history, one that often leads to horrifying abuse and assault on queer women in an attempt to “fix” them. To see the idea of “turning” being considered in even a semi-comedic film and by a straight male director no doubt is an absolute horror on principle for those who have suffered or known someone who has. I don’t, can’t begrudge that stance for even a second.

Setting that aside, I’m convinced Chasing Amy is the best version of itself it could possibly be. Smith’s always leaned toward including homoeroticism in his films (usually via the closeted Jay) because of his close relationship with his happily out brother; additionally, Smith went over the film’s script with friends and lesbian filmmakers Guinevere Turner and Rose Troche to make sure he was being true to the queer experience of the time (or at least not offensively off the mark); and finally, the script itself doesn’t claim to speak for Alyssa’s experience but instead frames itself around Holden’s ignorance and insecurities as a straight man (and the harm that they do).

Holden’s issues are familiar ones for those familiar with the meeting point of straight and queer culture. He’s not quite a “nice guy,” but he gets to be the sort of Ideal Dude in the early parts of the film. His insensitivity is born of ignorance, and once he befriends Alyssa he starts thinking about lesbians as (gasp) people over stereotypes and calling Banky out for his casual use of slurs. But his character arc doesn’t get to rest there – that would be far too easy, a nice fantasy that pats the “understanding” straight person on the back and then rewards them with their unattainable romantic partner.

Once Holden and Alyssa actually start dating, the film isn’t shy about bringing out his more entrenched, less easily defined prejudices and insecurities, particularly once he learns that Alyssa has had male as well as female partners. There’s an undercurrent of sexism to it (that Alyssa herself calls out), that he’s “conquered” this person by being the first male partner (and thus the first experience of, on some level, “real” sex that she’s had). His increased jealousy is a common mentality too – it’s a widely held urban legend that bisexual people are too sexual for a monogamous relationship, that it’s only a matter of time until they cheat or run off with a partner of a different gender. Preposterous fear-mongering, but pervasive nonetheless.

What might be most unique about the film is that it doesn’t shy away from depicting how this prejudice cuts both ways. The “pronoun game” scene is downright brutal, with all of Alyssa’s friends treating her like she’s died once she announces that she’s seeing Holden. There’s a real concept of “betrayal” to it, a reminder that the gay community was well into forming its own qualifications for what constituted being an acceptable member. When Alyssa clings most fiercely to her identification as a gay woman (which is perfectly valid! But not as set in stone as the political movement of “born this way” shaped it), it’s not hard to get the sense that it’s partly because that’s what the narrative dictates (though bless the film for the very necessary step of making sure its ending beat drives home that Alyssa was never “cured” of anything).

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This is by no means an uncommon thing. It is, in fact, quite common for bisexuals (pan/ace/etc, but we’re going to use bi for ease of reference) to feel pressured to identify as the sexuality of their partner. This is especially true for bisexual men, who are looked at with mistrust by gay partners and as walking HIV threats by straight partners. As understanding of sexuality and new generations have come about this has also led to something of a stratification of “real” vs. “trendy” queer people (even in that good old bastion of queerness, Tumblr).

Grey areas of sexuality get nudged under the rug because the community has had to fight so hard to drag itself out from under the religious right’s “This is a sinful choice” accusation, and the idea that there are people who aren’t hard wired on either side of the binary wasn’t a subtlety that made for a convincing unified front (there is a similar battle currently occurring with trans individuals, crafting a narrative that doesn’t leave a whole lot of room for people who can’t or don’t want to transition, or find themselves between or outside the traditional settings of the gender binary). Coming out as bisexual became an opportunity for homophobic voices to misread those people as evidence that gay people can be “fixed” to prefer heterosexual relationships, and the undercurrent of resentment for that seems to remain still (along with a fondness for tossing the “weird” outliers or more visibly queer individuals under the bus in the name of looking respectable).

And pop culture as a whole doesn’t leave much room for this lost group on either side. Take your pick: Katy Perry’s “I Kissed a Girl” on one side, that classic anthem of “isn’t it daring and naughty that I’m making out with this unsuspecting girl don’t worry I like dick though did I mention the boyfriend I totally have” (at least when Cobra Starship did the parody version they were upfront about the self-centered nastiness involved); on the other side Glee’s “Blame it on the Alcohol,” wherein one character questions whether he might be bisexual only to be straight up told by the show’s most visible gay character that no, no, “bisexual” is just a term made up by gay people who aren’t brave enough to come all the way out yet (a statement the episode is pretty happy to go on and prove “right” by having said character decide his orientation-questioning was based purely on drunkenness). And of course, for media figures who identify as bi there is the constant questioning of their validity.

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These issues are ongoing, nebulous, and entrenched in decades of homophobia, individual abuse and cultural subjugation. All that one film can ultimately manage is to tell its story of three individuals with sharp, poignant clarity (and a lot of sex jokes, because this is a Kevin Smith film). What tears Alyssa, Holden, and Banky (the film’s angry, repressed bisexual who frankly could merit his very own essay) apart is ultimately their inability to accept that they’re in different places in their sexual lives, forced to a breaking point by Holden’s outsider insistence that he knows how to fix everything if people would just listen to him. It’s about fear, insecurity and jealousy overwhelming love and communication, letting its characters pass through these larger, unsolved concerns while letting them exists as people in their own right. And (90s snapshot costume design aside) that’s what makes it timeless.

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That, and it has the single best riff on Jaws I’ve ever seen.

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9 comments on “Invisible Bisexual Boogeymen: How Chasing Amy is Still Ahead of Its Time

  1. The Illuminati aren’t invisible, everyone of them can be named.

    What I want to add is I feel there is a kind of non-Binary phobia is writing the people who go through a “phase” and objecting to them every-time they are in fiction. Some people’s sexual experience is like that. There area variety of different sexual experiences not just to or 3 or 4 variations.

    I saw Jurassic World today, it was awesome.

  2. J says:

    I first watched Chasing Amy when I was in high school and on a Kevin Smith kick.

    I liked the parts that fit into the Smith universe, but the troubles of the main cast made me uncomfortable.

    I put it away for several years, going for Mallrats or Dogma when I wanted a Smith hit, but I felt myself being called back.

    Watching it again when I was older and more comfortable, and having had experiences myself about current partners partners I was so much more open to what was trying to be said.

    Many people get hung up on Aylssa’s “swap” or “flippancy” that they miss thr point. For a time I was guilty of that myself.

    Even now I still find myself fighting those internal prejudice.

    Thanks for unearthing a great ‘old’ film.

    • Vrai Kaiser says:

      It’s very near and dear to my heart, this one.
      I think all of us in the community struggle with the internal stuff, even those of us who DO fall somewhere in the middle. Certainly it doesn’t help that the cultural norm is fighting really hard to say “ah, you’re not 100% cis gay? Well, I mean from a certain angle that means you’re straight, doesn’t it?”

  3. I’m thinking of referencing this for a future post on one of my blog. It’d good to know there are people within the LGBT community who agree with me that making the augment for Gay Right dependent on the “Born that way” argument isn’t wise.

    • Vrai Kaiser says:

      It’s still a very complicated issue – most of what I’m talking about here is mainly inter-community politics and how we’re choosing to draw lines. While I’d like to see “born this way” phased out over the decades, there’s no denying that right now there are still very much people who need it in queer/straight interactions (there isn’t yet the awareness that a mix of genetic predisposition and social constructs/raising and personal relations are JUST AS VALID as “pure” genetic queerness I.e. Born this way). Particularly kids who need a shelter from parents who would shame them in their most fragile time, or worse attempt to abuse them or send them to one of those awful “cure” institutions. take Leelah Alcorn for instance – she deserved the protection of being seen as a real human and girl, not being told she was “just confused” or trying to hurt her parents – at the same time, the existing queer narrative that transition was her ONLY option, and young transition at that – which is simply not true, lots of trans folks transition later or do not have surgery – was part of what drove her to such despair. And BOTH of those elements are still issues.

      • To me as a Libertarian is seems totally repugnant that the main argument for allowing people to do something is saying they have no choice.

        How we just argue it’s not your damn business if they’re not hurting anyone.

  4. Ben says:

    I remember watching Chasing Amy as a teen (with no previous experience of who Smith was) and loving it. There were elements that went over my head, given that the sexual politics were way outside my personal experience, but the idea that Holden created a lot of grief for himself Alyssa and Banky because he couldn’t get past his own issues (I always thought there was an element of slut-shaming in his reaction too) came through clearly. On reflection, not having a personal stake in some of the issues that the film looks at may have made more open to what the film was saying.

    Interestingly, there was a short run tv drama made by Russell T Davies a few years later that traversed similar territory, ‘Bob & Rose’. If that name is familiar you can ignore the rest of this, but it was a rather sweet love story (sort of a romcom in that it used that framework) about a gay man and a straight woman falling in love. One of the great things about it is that Bob is never considered to have ‘turned’ or ‘gone straight’ – even as his relationship with Rose develops he’s quite clear that he is still gay and sexually attracted to men. I was going to ramble about some of my favourite scenes and how they parallel things you mention in this article, but instead of spoilers I’ll just say that if you haven’t seen it, it’s worth a look.

  5. Ben says:

    It was released on DVD that you can probably find on amazon and it’s currently up on youtube. I think I’ll give it a rewatch, actually. I’d be interested to hear what you think of it.

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